Sunday, June 11, 2006

eye of the beholder

an interesting article: The Beguiling Truth About Beauty by Carlin Flora

Last paragraph is beautiful: Most of us have had the mysterious experience of watching a loved one become increasingly beautiful with time, as the relationship grows deeper. Imagine that generous gaze is upon you all the time, and you'll soon see a better reflection in others' eyes. You may not be able to turn off your inner hot-or-not meter, but you can spend less time fretting in the mirror and more time engaging with the world.


Patia said...

Wow, gorgeous redesign.

Patia said...

Here's another very interesting (blog) article about body image and nudity:

The Beauty of Every Naked Body

Anonymous said...

Wonderful, just what I needed to read!


nathan said...

I think that people too often see gazing into the mirror as vanity.

I've spent loads of time gazing into the mirror - and it has only improved my self-image. The Yummy Wakame thinks I do it for self-pride or because I enjoy looking at my fabulous self, but nothing could be further from the truth.

By looking at your body, naked in front of the mirror, you can honestly assess what it is you do or don't like about it, and then decide what's worth working on or what you can live with. Almost everyone has the choice to lose the love handles or cut their hair, but it's about what you're willing to do to get to the body that you want. And for those things you can't control - like the shape of your nose or that pesky third nipple...well, by facing these things we can come to terms with them.

Same with assessing your clothing - looking at what you wear you can see how other people view you, and since fashion is such a determining factor in first impressions, you can use your visual offset to affect your world.

That's as magical as it gets, pretty much, but the third and most important reason to look into a mirror is to just straight gaze into your own eyes. You can see what's going on in there, everything hidden behind pupil and eyelashes and eyelids, your entire soul is in there, and it helps to see if there's any ugliness creeping around so that you can make the choice whether to confront that or not...