Tuesday, December 13, 2005

things i've learned being single

one is a whole number. peace alone is better than bad couplehood. sometimes it's ok to have extra pieces left over after building furniture (sometimes it is not). i can change a lightbulb by stacking two telephone books on a bar stool. a light bulb doesn't break when it flies across a room when i fall (if it lands in a basket of fresh laundry). it's possible to spend an entire weekend from five o'clock friday night until nine o'clock monday morning not talking to another person and be perfectly happy. a fantasy can last longer than some guys. food in the freezer has an expiration date for a reason. the sun comes up after a sleepless night. a car's tires need to have the air checked once in a while. the toilet seat and its lid can be down all the time. sometimes fastening a necklace is impossible. there are men who want you to be weak with them but strong for them. sometimes i love eating a bowl of cereal for dinner instead of cooking. sometimes i fix food for my neighbors just for the opportunity to cook. dating can really suck. i can open a bottle of champagne by myself but a vase on a shelf across the room is in danger. a mechanic can be really expensive. women are powerful. soy milk is sexy in a wine glass. a mouse stays alive when caught in a glue stick and killing then becomes humane (and i don't have the courage to be humane). a mouse doesn't understand apologies. some men will hit on you even though they have no interest in seeing you again. my life is busier and more full than i would have imagined a single person could be. some rental cars lock automatically if you step out of them even if the engine is running. young guys like older women. only when you are all you have do you truly learn you are all you need. i really do want someone to tell me if i look fat in this dress. a bed is more fun with two. soaking in a hot bath with salts and suds, with candles and music, is a great way to spend an evening. i wouldn't want to be with a man who doesn't have as much fun with the grandkids as i do. it's ok to ask for help. friends are priceless.

photo posted with the permission of the artist graham jeffrey

6 comments:

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:)

hope and love said...

wow..! i connected immediately with the post..! great..!

Creatrix (aka Jennifer) said...

"one is a whole number" -- yes! i find that is something i must remember even in a relationship. not needing to be completed, but knowing i'm already complete. thank you for reminding me and sharing this great post.

Barbara said...

Beautiful post. And may I recomment the live mouse traps (without glue). Just bait them with peanut butter, then take the mouse in the trap to a place away from houses and let the little critter go. It's a freeing experience for the human, too. :)

feminine expressions said...

barbara ~ i like that...this is much more in concert with the way i live my life (and want it to be lived). it was just awful for me to capture the animal in the glue trap. and i seem to have a ritual every spring and autumn as the seasons change that one mouse finds its way inside, then not another until two seasons later. thanks for the tip...

the shrewness said...

"sometimes fastening a necklace is impossible."; "a bed is more fun with two."

these are so true.

but spending the whole weekend without talking to anyone ane being perfectly happy about it, makes up for the aforementioned.

i cant wait to read through all the post...